When I first joined Toastmasters. I thought the hardest part would be standing up and giving a Speech. But I quickly learned that Toastmasters is about so much more than speaking. One of the greatest gifts Toastmasters offers is mentorship. And I want to share why having a good mentor can make all the difference because I’ve had the privilege of being guided by one of the best, Mr Pat Foley of Thurles Toastmasters Club 4173, Area 8, Division D, District 71.
You know, starting something new is never easy. Whether it’s a new job, a new hobby, or your first time behind the lectern, it can feel a little scary. That’s where a mentor comes in. A mentor isn’t just someone who tells you what to do they’re someone who listens, encourages, and helps you find your own voice. They’re that calm presence who reminds you that you can do it, even when you’re doubting yourself.
When I was preparing for my first Ice Breaker Speech, I’ll admit I was lost. I didn’t know where to start. Should I talk about my background? My Hobbies ? My dreams? That’s when Pat stepped in. But instead of giving me a list of instructions, he asked me a few simple questions. What story matters to you ? What do you want your audience to feel? Those questions changed everything. I realised that my speech didn’t have to be perfect, it just had to be real.
Mr Pat Foley reminded me that confidence doesn’t come from being flawless. It comes from being prepared, and from practicing until you trust yourself. Every time I doubted whether I was ready. He’d smile and say “ you got this “ And somehow, I believed him. His support turned my nerves into motivation. And to me that is what a good mentor does, they see something in you before you see it in yourself.
One of things I love about Toastmasters is that mentorship isn’t an afterthought it is the heart of what we do. At Thurles’s Toastmasters we believe that we learn best when we learn together. Experienced members help new members, not by telling them what to say, but by helping them find their own voice. And the best part. It’s a cycle. Today, I’m learning from Mr Pat Foley. But one day, I’ll get to mentor someone else, and pass on what I’ve learned. That’s how Toastmasters keeps growing through shared experiences, encouragement, and connection.
So why is having a good mentor so important? Because a mentor helps you believe you belong. They remind you that progress matters more than perfection. And they help you see every step forward no matter how small is a victory.
For me that has been Mr Pat Foley. I thank him for his patience, wisdom, and for guiding me with kindness and humour. He has made this journey not only easier, but a lot more meaningful.
Mentorship isn’t just about becoming a better speaker. It’s about becoming a better version of yourself. And that, I believe, is the true spirit of Toastmasters.
Thank you,
Mary Sheppard Club 4173, Area 8, Division D, District 71